/Beautiful Things for Slow Sex
And Your Own Erotic Ritual
By debauchette
The recurring advice in this issue on Ritual is to go slowly. Betony Vernon made the point that planning an encounter in advance and blocking off a period of time to enjoy that experience (and enjoy one another) is key. Midori mentioned that reading a hot book together is one way to let the eroticism unfold slowly, together.
So I imagined what I would put together for a kit, if I were to disappear for a few days for a prolonged sexual experience. A few books, a few tactile items, and some vibration for the body, rather than the clit.
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Incognito Droplet Necklace
The Incognito necklace looks like a necklace, and it is, but the weights at the ends of the strands also function as vibrating, adjustable nipple clamps. It comes in sterling silver or gold plate. It's subtle and understated, yet serves a highly arousing function.
The Decadent Cookbook: Recipes of Obsession and Excess
I don't cook much, but when I come across a cookbook like this, I'm inspired to stock the kitchen and cook a long meal with someone I plan to fuck. And I want to cook for an orgy. The book draws its material from decadents throughout history, from Caligula to the Marquis de Sade. Part history, part cookbook, it will give you perspective on both decadence and the pleasure of eating. Bear in mind that by 'decadent,' they aren't referring to rich chocolates and creams, but rather a very extreme sort of lifestyle, one that's dark, twisted, perverse, erotic, and obscene. For example:
"Blood makes an excellent basis for a Decadent meal. Dark, heavy, rich and sinister, it combines beautifully with other Decadent themes: vice, corruption, incest and death."
If you're a little dark and twisted, then this book could be considered romantic.
Babeland Body Massage Bar
Massage oil is great, but it can be messy and inconvenient. Babeland's body massage bar is firm to the touch, but once the bar is pressed to the skin, it begins to melt to a massage oil. Use the bar to press firmly into pressure points; use the oil to smooth friction during massage. These are great because they're easy to pack and carry, with no risk of spillage. Slip one of these into your purse, or leave a few on your bedside table, and you'll be able to transition easily from a date (say, a decadent dinner in) to a slow, sexual encounter.
Erotic Poems, by e.e. cummings
i like my body when it is with your
body. It is so quite new a thing.
Muscles better and nerves more.
i like your body. i like what it does,
i like its hows. i like to feel the spine
of your body and its bones, and the trembling
-firm-smooth ness and which i will
again and again and again
kiss, i like kissing this and that of you,
i like, slowly stroking the, shocking fuzz
of your electric fur, and what-is-it comes
over parting flesh … And eyes big love-crumbs,
and possibly i like the thrill
of under me you so quite new
X: Erotic Treasury
This collection of erotic stories, edited by Susie Bright, come bound absolutely beautifully in red and black cloth, complete with a gorgeous slipcase. Looks great on the shelf, and even better on your bed. Read these with your partner between rounds of play. Included in the book is a particularly hot story by our own Chelsea Summers.
Bo
Bo is a stylish, rechargeable, vibrating cock ring. The flexible silicone stretches comfortably over the penis; position the vibrator on top in order to stimulate a woman’s clit during intercourse, or turn it upside-down for added pleasure during masturbation. The added advantage here is that it prolongs erections, enabling a long, slow experience.
Ovid's Erotic Poems
The cookbook is perverse, the erotic treasury is hot, and Ovid's Erotic Poems are simply beautiful and fascinating. Many of the poems are directed to his mistress, Corinna, but the collection also includes notes on how to terminate an affair, on facial treatments for women, and on the use of cosmetics.
Jimmyjane's Wink Blindfold
Use a blindfold and you will slow down. When you're blindfolded, your other senses are heightened - you become aware of your partner's footsteps and acutely sensitive to the slowest caress over your skin. And if you're the one doing the blindfolding, you have a beautiful captive.
The great thing about Jimmyjane's blindfold is that the extra-long satin ends can be used for light bondage. Cover her eyes and bind her wrists overhead.
(Or, I should say, "Please cover my eyes and bind my wrists overhead...")
Dr. Sketchy's Rainy Day Coloring Book
And this? It's fun, sexy, and playful, full of paper dolls, word puzzles, interviews, games, cartoons, cut-out pasties, drink recipes, and more. Because sex is slow-burning, flash-burning, hot, and primal, but it is also simply fun.
- 02/02/2010
